Generation Y is redefining the meaning of relationships. Both Millennial men and women seem to eagerly go against tradition and are consistently growing towards more nonchalant relationships. It has become socially acceptable for Gen Yer’s to participate in casual flings rather than in meaningful relationships. In a society where one-night stands and “Friends With Benefits” are being glorified, is there cause for alert?
Due to the new approach towards relationships, Millennial women are becoming more distrusting of finding the right partner, and as a result, are more likely to remain single and bear children outside of marriage. Men, on the other hand, are more comfortable with the lightened burden provided by current beliefs of dating. Most women today are sexually active in non-committal relationships and are more prone to attempt to “think like a man.” Current data states that about 7.5 million couples today are choosing to live together before they marry. It is a decision many couples are making to secure their compatibility, but can sometimes backfire on women who desire marriage.
It is important to look at the reasons why Generation Y has formed these beliefs towards relationships and why this strong fear of commitment has been established. First, high divorce rates have caused doubts in the validity of love and trust, and second, the hectic lifestyle between school, loans, part-time jobs, and family has made it hard to find time for a meaningful relationship. It’s no help either that romantic comedies like No Strings Attached and Friends With Benefits have given people a false hope and the illusion of what that type of relationship is like in reality.
Women in their 20s and 30s are now in constant competition with men on who is able to stay more detached than the other. In the long run, most of these one-night stands and casual flings end up with unwanted consequences, heartbreak, drama, and turn into lessons that could have gone unlearned. Most of Gen Y is fighting against traditional relationships so strongly that at times they forget that some traditions are worth holding on to. Millennials are trying to handle relationships in a logical, systematic, detached, and practical way in order to avoid heartbreak or divorce, but that is almost self-destructible. Relationships consist of emotions and love, and Generation Y needs to realize that this type of detachment will ultimately lead to unfulfilling situations and leave everyone lonelier than ever.
In the modern era, Gen Y has the advantage of being open-minded and free about love and relationships, regardless of race or sexual orientation. However, this newfound freedom seems to be misunderstood and is sometimes interchangeable with promiscuity. Millennials are waiting to be saved by someone who proves that love exists and relationships can persists. Yet on the contrary, what Gen Y is actually creating is a community where people are emotionally disconnected from one another by their cynical and distrusting thoughts of each other.
Born in Tirana, Albania, but raised in a small suburban town in New Jersey, Xhiljola grew up intrigued by the world. She is currently studying Corporate Communications and Psychology at Baruch College in New York City, and is a contributor to myCulture Magazine, Waxwire Magazine, and Millennial Magazine.