How Parents Can Help Their Children Cope After Divorce

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Divorce is a hard situation for everyone involved, especially if the couple getting divorced have children. While nobody goes into a marriage thinking about a break-up however, it is important to remember that the current stats suggest 1 in every 2 marriages will fail. Legal teams like those at Prime Lawyers sadly see situations all the time where the kids are majorly affected as a result of divorce. This is something that both parents should be acutely aware of and focus on avoiding.

There will always be some damage, of course, that is natural, but there are ways in which parents can help their kids following the divorce.

Personal Opinions

Whatever opinion one spouse has about their ex, this should never be aired or discussed in front of the child. There is a huge difference between a parent and child and two people who forged a life together, and that is why kids must be allowed to form their own opinions. In reality, the only responsibility which each parent has to the other is to follow the details of the custody agreement. Beyond that, opinions should be kept personal in front of the child or children.

Encouraging Conversation

In most cases when children have problems after a divorce, it is because they have no idea what to do with the emotions which they are feeling. Usually, this comes about as a result of them not being able to talk about them, which is something that parents should be aware of. It is critical that parents talk to their kids about what has happened and why. Treating them like they don’t know anything is not going to do anyone any favors, because they are far more intuitive than we give them credit for. Naturally, the kids don’t need to know all of the gritty details, but the more you share with them, the more they are likely to share with you.

Seeking Professional Help

If you are genuinely struggling to get your kids to open up then taking them to speak with a professional could be a great idea. Don’t force this on your child, but encourage them to have a chat with someone about how they are feeling. You may find that your kid hates it, but in many cases, they may feel much more comfortable talking to a stranger.

Don’t Use Them

As terrible as it sounds, there are many parents who use their kids to get back at their ex and try to manipulate this situation for their own good. This should never be the case, whatever has happened between one person and another is never the fault of the child. This is why they have to be kept out of any fighting or issues which the two parents are having, and shielded from such conversations and arguments.

This is far from easy but placing focus on the children is the most important thing to do following a divorce.

What do you think?

Written by Jennifer Landis

Jennifer Landis is a millennial mom, wife, and is crazy passionate about health and wellness. She writes about it on her blog, Mindfulness Mama. She loves a good cup of tea and enjoys spending her free time running, doing yoga, and watching Doctor Who.

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