6 Tips For Staying Mentally Stable Through Divorce
Going through a divorce can try just about anyone’s mental state. But that’s precisely when you need to have it together in order to make good decisions and for the sake of your children, if there are any in the equation. Here are six tips for staying mentally stable through a divorce.
Do Things You Enjoy
One way to keep your spirits up during such a tough time is seek out and do activities you enjoy. You could even try taking some community classes to learn new skills in areas that you didn’t know you were interested in. You could also do volunteer work, read a few good books you’ve been putting off or hike through the mountains. Doing things like this work for a lot of people because it helps you focus on what you enjoy as well as find new skills and hobbies. This is definitely a great way to change your focus and make the time go by fast.
Seek Solace In Others
Don’t be hesitant to spend time with and talk to your close friends, family members and children during the divorce. Getting out and reminding yourself there are other people you treasure in life can help you keep yourself in good spirits and remember that you have value. However, don’t be in a rush to tell everyone: if you manage to salvage your relationship (and you can), they will likely pile on the pressure to leave anyway. It is also a good idea to seek help and solace from a good family attorney. According to those at Robinson & Henry P.C Law “Unlike getting married… getting divorced is much more complex and legally intensive.” That means you will want to get as much help as possible when it comes to legal work like this.
Reaffirm Your Self Worth
Your self-esteem is likely to take a severe hit when going through a divorce, especially if infidelity was involved. You’ll likely wonder what you were lacking that made your spouse go elsewhere. The fact of the matter is, there are many reasons people cheat, and it’s likely you did nothing “wrong.” What’s more likely is that you and your spouse were simply a poor fit and that you could do better.
Know That Healing Takes Time After A Divorce
Don’t be afraid to let out your feelings, either. Trying to act normal too quickly means you are likely bottling up emotions in an unhealthy manner and not addressing them fully. Be honest with yourself, and give yourself time, as much as you need to, to grieve.
While it isn’t good to unfairly blame yourself, being in denial of your wrongdoing is equally harmful. Take careful stock of yourself and acknowledge where you went wrong. Use that truth to better yourself and avoid similar mistakes in the future.
Go To A Counselor If Necessary
Please do not be afraid to seek professional help if necessary. Many people have serious, undiagnosed mental illnesses that can be exacerbated by the divorce process. There is nothing wrong if you require a professional to talk to and help keep you mentally stable.
Hopefully, these tips will help you stay mentally stable during a divorce. Be strong, remember what makes you happy and make sure you know your self-worth. You’ll get through it.
Kara Masterson is a freelance writer from West Jordan, Utah. She graduated from the University of Utah and enjoys writing and spending time with her dog, Max.