Things You Definitely Don’t Want to Do on a Date
You’ve finally linked up with someone that you’re interested in getting to know more about. You have a date planned, and can’t wait to see where things lead, but you also can’t help but feel a bit anxious. You’re nervous about how things will go, what you’ll say if they’ll like you (or if you’ll like them) and want to take things a step further.
It’s normal to be nervous about these kinds of things, however, your nerves can get the best of you. Some people get so caught up in their fears and emotions (or themselves) that they make careless mistakes that could cost them the opportunity for future encounters. Unless you want to find yourself in similar circumstances, it’s likely best that you don’t do these things on a date:
Don’t Smoke Before or During the Date
Unless you already know your date’s a smoker, you probably shouldn’t smoke just before or during the date. Cigarette smoke and the smell can be very intimidating for non-smokers which could turn them off from you completely. If you really need a dose of nicotine to survive the night, you’re better off ordering a vape kit from an online vape shop. Since the smoke is odorless, it won’t get in your clothes.
Don’t Forget Chivalry
It may be modern times but every woman appreciates a little chivalry. So, if you’re a guy going out on a date, you’d better bring your manners along with you. Failing to do simple things like open and close doors, pull out chairs, and helping her with her coat could send a message that you’re not a gentleman.
Don’t Overdo It on Self-Talk
Yes, dating is supposed to be about getting to know one another (emphasis on each other). However, you don’t want to take over the conversation by getting so involved with yourself. Talk about yourself to some degree, but you should also come equipped with questions that will allow you to get to know your date better as well. Talking too much about yourself gives off a conceited vibe that doesn’t end well for dates.
Don’t Get Wasted
You may have decided to meet at a bar or fancy restaurant for drinks but that doesn’t mean you should get drunk. Having a bit of “liquid courage” to calm your nerves and relax is okay, as long as you don’t go overboard. When you’re drunk, you tend to act in ways you may not otherwise act. You might dispell information too soon, or end up behaving in a manner that you regret the next morning. So, know your limits and stick to them.
Don’t Get Too Ahead of Yourself
No matter how great the date is going, you shouldn’t bring up topics like marriage and children too soon. Your date may very well want to get married and have children someday. However, having a complete stranger (which you essentially are) ask about it so soon after meeting, is scary. If it’s meant to be, there will be future dates where you can get more serious.
Everyone puts on a bit of a show during the first few dates to try and impress their date, but don’t go overboard. Pretending to be something you’re not, exaggerating, or flat out lying on a date will eventually catch up to you. It is best to be yourself. This way you can find out if there’s a real connection early on.
Going on a first date is nerve-wracking. You’re hoping to really hit it off with someone and worried on how to best do it. The best way to get through the date is to be confident in yourself and let the rest take its course. Also, please remember not to do any of the things listed above. If you remember that, chances are you’ll be asked out again.
ContributorDallas Dorrall is passionate about music and is living her dream managing and promoting Nashville/Muscle Shoals based Country Music Artist, Johnny Collier, currently touring the US. While traveling, she enjoys reviewing new artists, restaurants and nightclubs. Dallas is crazy about her family and friends and attributes her enthusiasm for life to a quote by Marianne Williamson (which she still reads every day) entitled “Our Deepest Fear”.